WHO DID IT AND WHY? WHEN JEALOUSY TURNS TO OBEAH

A few days ago I was sent an email from a young lady about her mother and what she went through and also how it affected the children. In the email, she had two questions: Who did this terrible thing to her mother? And what caused it?

She had read the Symptoms of Tying and Binding post and saw the signs in her mother and the result after the fact, but amid all this there were still some other things thrown into the mix. When I read her story, it brought me back to an unpleasant time in my life with the wicked baby father and all I went through with him and his evil woman. Like the girl in the email, I, too, watched my children’s father turn into a completely different man after being tied. It also brought me to the present and how a thief stole from me what he did not work for. I asked the young lady if I could share the email and I was given her permission.

The wicked baby father got involved with this awful woman while we were together and I had given him his first child (a son), and my second (the first being a baby girl with whom he met me with). He went to prison while I was pregnant. I did my prison visits, pulled all nighters on the bus going upstate to the maximum correctional facility until they moved him to a medium facility.

Traveling to him was not easy, especially for a pregnant young girl. I thought that when he came out we would have a good life together with our children and as a young couple build our lives together. I did everything for him to get an early release and he did when he moved closer to our town on a work release programme. He did only a year out of his time and was placed on probation for the rest of the time, but was also released early from probation. I stood with him through thick and thin. I was his life line, his strength through his struggles, the good partner, a good woman, someone he should have loved and cherished. But men (especially Jamaican man, hailments to de few good one dem, big up oonuh self, but oonuh bad nuh blood kleet) most of them just can not help but cheat, and my children’s father was no exception.

He was a handsome man. Average height, dark, and a really good dresser, stylish and clean, but most of all he had money. And we all know seh money mek some gal do anything. He told me a long time after all that had happened to us which eventually ended our relationship, that he only meant to sleep with the gal once. Take a read of what she told me when we finally spoke: read here, the fifth paragraph.

Now, this brings me to warn you all of something that got him into this situation. He had only hoped, according to him, to have a one time fling with the old hobbit (de wicked gal), but she thought otherwise. You can read more about what happened in the post linked above.

Below is the email sent to me. She attached pictures of the before and after looks of her mother and while I cannot share them, I must say, there is quite a change to the woman from head to toe, not to mention that it is obvious that she is no longer in the correct state of mind. I get a lot of emails daily, but this one really touched me because this type of obeah affected my enemy’s life (By now, you all know that when I write “my enemy” I mean me, but because it is a negative sentence, I throw it onto my enemies, you should also).

I am happy that my children are all grounded and have no “daddy” issues (I tried), but it still hurts slightly that because this woman interfered with this man’s destiny and tied him, he has turned his back on the children we had together. As we say in Jamaica, “Not a line or a letter or a fifty cent stamp,” in other words, no communication. They have since separated for a while now, but the effects of the Obeah is still in his life so much that he constantly asks me to help him. He was a rich man, but the obeah has made him dwindle down to hardly anything, so much that he has once had to ask his young daughter for money. My youngest girl, little Obara, who is wise for her age, often begs me to assist him. I told her that I will, but he will have to find his way to me. He has not as yet, but if he comes, I will. For a while, I was angry with him for his foolishness, his stupidity of allowing this woman to destroy us as a family, but now as I am Obara Meji, I thank her, but this is for another post.

When a selfish person decides to pull a family apart or even a couple apart, they do not think of the repercussions that will certainly follow. The heads (Ori) of the victims will fight on their behalf, and one day, even if it is a day before they die, they will see the justice of the Universe.

The story below has two scenarios of what could have happened to the young lady’s mother. I have my own opinion, which I will reveal in the comments, come with yours. But to the young woman, I say I am sorry for the pain you and your siblings went through at the hands of wicked people, and may God assist you all on your journey and through your battles. Young lady, teach your children from this experience. From this, be the best person you can be. She is your mother and she was under a spell, please forgive her and pray for her, we will pray for her also.

THE EMAIL:

Hello Obara,

I want to give my mom’s story. I will also attach before and after photos.

She was a beautiful lady, lived a comfortable life, traveled a lot and was up to de time. Then we suddenly saw she got friendly to a guy who was well known by all of us (including herself) to be a thief. Everyone was in shock. She then started getting distanced from her family and friend. She displayed symptoms of a brain-washed victim. She turned enemy with everyone who cared about her and started acting like someone who is mentally unstable.

They had a private wedding. And since their union, she went on a downward spiral. She sold all her valuables gradually because neither of them wanted to be part of the “Babylon System”. So they were both unemployed. But she used to be a seller of merchandise before him. Eventually he made her sell all the furniture in the house and they took off to Guyana, where she was under the impression that she was going to make a nice life. They left with my bro, who is two years young than me, and my sister who was new born at the time (his daughter).

We NEVER heard from them after that, until a few months ago when I found my little sister on Facebook. She updated us yesterday and it sent shock-waves through the family. We are all at a bittersweet stage. She lives in a remote part of Guyana now, in an abandoned house that was left behind by its deceased owner. She endured 18 years of poverty and misery in that place with no contact with anyone back home. She now has 4 kids over there. Three of which were raised in orphanages and the elder one moved from house to house, living with different friends.

There are two possible culprits for her situation-The husband, and the lady who raised my other bro and I. My bro (the elder one over there) told me that when she first started tripping, she used to curse out that lady’s name a lot. And I remember from a little girl, there were constant disputes between this lady and her, over her house. But the disputes started after her husband came about.

Now in the new pics I received yesterday, I can see that she has a few keys attached to her hair, so I was thinking maybe this lady sent her off to get full control of the house. This lady took all measures necessary for my big bro to take over the house after my mom left. They over- threw her tenants. And neither of them wanted me to occupy the house along with him. He even gave me notice at some point lol. And now that we are in contact with my mom and our other siblings, he is willing to help financially but displays disapproval of any of them coming back home, especially my mom.

So I don’t know if she was cast away by this lady for the house, or if she was tied by this man, leading to such a downward spiral.

Please, your advice will be highly appreciated. If you have questions to better understand the situation, please feel free to ask.

Best,
Y

Tí irọ́ bá tan iná, kò lè so èso rere. 
Even if a lie glows (and blooms), it can’t yield good fruits……..Yoruba Proverbs! 

[Integrity is crucial; whatever is founded on deceit won’t endure]

There are no disappointments in life only lessons learned!

All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…Obara Meji!